Let's talk about something almost every couple encounters at some point: the man finishing too quickly. If you're wondering how to make your boyfriend last longer, please know you're not alone, and more importantly, it's a common issue with a lot of fun, effective solutions.
As someone who's been there, I can tell you that the goal isn't just about clocking more minutes—it's about reducing performance anxiety, deepening intimacy, and making sex more enjoyable for both of you. It’s a team effort, not a criticism. So, let's explore some loving and effective strategies.
1. The Foundation: Open Communication (The Sexiest Tool)
This is the most crucial step. How you approach the conversation makes all the difference.
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Focus on "We" and "Us": Frame it as something you can explore together to make your shared pleasure even better. Try phrases like, "I love it when we take our time, it really builds the excitement for me," or "What if we tried some new things to make things even more amazing for both of us?"
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Reassure Him: Let him know you're attracted to him and love having sex with him. The goal is to eliminate the anxiety that often causes premature ejaculation in the first place.
2. The Art of Edging & The Pause-Start Technique
This is a powerful and pleasurable method you can practice together.
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How it works: During foreplay or intercourse, when he feels he's getting close to climax, he gives you a signal (a squeeze or a word). You both then pause completely for 15-30 seconds—no movement. Kiss, touch, just breathe together. Once the sensation subsides, you start again.
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Why it works: This helps him recognize the "point of no return" and trains his body to manage arousal. It turns into a delicious game of anticipation that can make his eventual orgasm even more powerful.
3. Change the Rhythm and Position
A simple change can work wonders.
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Switch It Up: If a certain rhythm or position is bringing him too close too fast, switch to something less stimulating for him. This isn't a race to the finish line; it's a scenic drive.
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Great Positions to Try: Positions where you are on top allow you to control the depth and pace. Side-by-side or spooning positions can also feel less intense for him and are incredibly intimate.
4. The Power of Foreplay (For Him AND You)
Shift the focus away from penetrative sex as the main event.
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Focus on You First: Ensure you're receiving plenty of attention and orgasming through oral sex, fingering, or toys before penetration even begins. This takes the immense pressure off him to "last."
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Focus on Him Too: Extended foreplay for him can help him get past the initial peak of excitement. Think of it like taking the edge off, so he's not quite as sensitive when penetration starts.
5. Introduce Toys & Desensitizing Products (The Game-Changer)
This is where you can have a lot of fun and find a practical solution that works instantly.
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The Magic of a Delay Spray: This is one of the easiest and most effective tools. A delay spray for men works by gently numbing the penis just enough to reduce sensitivity and delay ejaculation, without removing sensation entirely. Pro Tip: He should apply it 10-15 minutes before sex. A little goes a long way!
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Ring Him In: A cock ring can help him maintain a harder erection for longer by restricting blood flow out of the penis. Some even come with a small vibrator on top, which adds clitoral stimulation for you—a win-win!
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Use a Vibrator on Yourself: During penetration, using a vibrator can help you reach orgasm faster and takes the sole focus off his stamina.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
Q: Won't using a delay spray make him feel nothing?
A: Not if you use a quality product correctly! The goal is to reduce sensitivity, not eliminate it. It simply helps him manage his arousal better. It should still feel great for him.
Q: How do I bring up the idea of using a product like a delay spray?
A: Make it a positive, shared adventure. Say something like, "I saw this product that's supposed to enhance sensations for both of us and help things last longer. It could be fun to try together!"
Q: Are these methods a permanent fix?
A: Techniques like edging and communication can have long-term benefits. Products like delay sprays are fantastic tools you can use whenever you want to change things up or ensure a longer session.
Q: What if the problem is psychological?
A: Often, it is! Performance anxiety is a huge factor. Creating a low-pressure, fun, and intimate environment where orgasm isn't the only goal is the best medicine.
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